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7 Lovely Logics For Living Klassily

The logical route is usually the best route. Don’t let your emotions complicate things. Logic over emotion equals control.

Here are 7 logics that even the most illogical can follow…


3 Reasons He Didn’t Call You

1. He Has A Girlfriend and/or A Boyfriend
Yea, he flirted and gave you his number but so what, maybe he was just being nice. No one likes being the barer of bad news. He probably has a girlfriend or a boyfriend waiting at home that’s dying to cunt punt the first person they see eyeing their goods.

2. He’s Waiting On You
Not everyone knows how to deal with rejection. He probably wants to call but isn’t sure you’re really into him. Give him a call or at least a text to see what happens. Keep it klassy, I said text not sext. Tip: Less isn’t always more, keep your clothes on.

3. He’s Waiting For A Rainy Day
He probably has a million hussies on his list in front of you. He’s just waiting for a few skanks to drop off before he gets to you. Don’t get upset, life isn’t fair; get your own skanks to keep you occupied.

Whatever the reason, always remember to live klassily.


Life Isn’t Fair, Get Over It.

A few days ago Miss Kia (my car) decided to check into the pearly gates of car heaven. Much to my dismay, her untimely death resulted in a three-hour wait in the frigid cold for roadside assistance. Of course I thought, “why me, did I do something wrong and why now”. Maybe it was divine intervention, frostbite, or hypothermia but I had an epiphany. Life is not fair. No one gets to pick their challenges and hardships. 

Trayvon Martin didn’t get to pick his fate the night he was gunned down by George Zimmerman. Your newly engaged co-worker didn’t decide she wanted to take a leave of absence because she found out she has cancer. I’m sure the homeless guy you passed on your way home from work would rather be at happy hour than begging for cash.

Even if you are super rich, super smart, and super attractive you’re going to have detours, upsets, and times you feel like giving up. Whatever you do, don’t give up. Keep the faith. Success is a journey. Hillary Clinton said it best,

“Always aim high, work hard, and care deeply about what you believe in. And, when you stumble, keep faith. And, when you’re knocked down, get right back up and never listen to anyone who says you can’t or shouldn’t go on.”

If life was fair, we could all eat 100 Chicken McNuggets a Day and win Olympic gold medals. Save your woe is me Facebook rants for your therapist, people have succeeded and failed at every socioeconomic level. success is a journey, strap yourself up and enjoy the bumpy ride.


Three Poisons That Kill Friendships

3 Poisons That Kill Friendships

We’ve all been there; lines are crossed, motives are questioned, and the ebbs & flows of friendship are starting to make you sick to your stomach. Your friend who was once nothing short of a “sister” has you feeling like you’re trapped playing the role of Cinderella, opposite Evil Step Sister.

Here are three poisons that should never come into play on your quest to salvage your friendship and live klassily ever after:

1. Jealousy

There is no room for jealousy in a friendship. Uplifting each other should be a priority. When you feel jealously brewing, don’t project your feelings; look within for a resolution. Consider yourself lucky for having such a great friend. Ask yourself, “why am I unhappy admiring someone else’s brilliance?” or take it a step further, plan a Starbucks date and ask your friend how they became so brilliant.

2. Hidden Agendas

Trying to coddle opportunities to advance your own hidden agendas never ends well. Ask yourself, “do my actions show sincere commitment?” In the event you find yourself going down a divergent path, support and honesty should be the first things you offer. Explore ways you can leverage your divergent paths for the greater good of the friendship.

3. Self Loathe

When you are self-loathing and receive validation from others’ despair; nothing good shall come to you. Get to the bottom of why you are not happy with yourself and address those issues. Learn to validate yourself. No matter the circumstance, always exude positive energy. The return on investment received from being positive is exponentially greater than what you’d get back from being negative.

We all have our own flaws, letting them destroy our friendships or relationships is a choice. When the scope of your friendship is rife with poison, it doesn’t take long for people to find a sure-fire way to exit stage left. Keep it real. Channel your jealous feelings, hidden agendas, and self loathe into motivation to be a better person.


Here’s A Tip About Experiencing The Better Parts Of Life…

Don’t wait for anyone! Just go and do it. Make that dinner reservation at the restaurant you’ve always wanted to go to. Plan that trip to the destination that you’ve dreamed about. Head to the gym when it’s best for you. The worst thing you can do is worry about doing it alone. You’ll fine that once you start everyone will want to join you, and while you’re there, there’s always someone to keep you company.


Keep It Real

Often we get so caught up in what feels good & what looks good. We’re willing to live a lie just because its convenient or its what society tells us is acceptable, this is not sustainable.

Learn to embrace your reality regardless of the outcome. Be strong enough to face the facts. If you’re not “keeping it real” with yourself, what makes you think people will keep it real with you???

Take a quick moment to sit down with yourself, your loved ones, your higher power and release the truth. Be strong, be true, be you!!!


There’s More To Life Than Being Cool

We’ve all seen them: They wear the latest fashions, they speak the latest lingo, and they listen to the “coolest” music. If you’re lucky, they’ll say hi to you or even grace you with their presence. Consider yourself lucky if they invite you to one of their exclusive events. If you sell your soul, they may welcome you into their group. But do you really want to be apart of that group?

The “cool kid” group seems like the way to go for so many people. They seem to be the most beautiful people and do the “coolest” things. But if you dive deeper into their personas, you may be surprised to find that some of them are actually mean spirited, ego inflated , and even bullies. While this may not be the case for all cool kids, it certainly represents quite a few. Don’t expect to grow, expand your knowledge, or be a better person if you surround yourself by social climbers who have no qualms with this type of behavior.

Writer, philosopher, and social entrepreneur Brenton Weyi wrote about the three essential types of people you need to have in your life at all times to be amazing. According to his article, “Why Successful People Leave Their Loser Friends Behind in order to be amazing, you’ll need:

  1.  Someone who is older and more successful than you, to learn from;
  2. Someone who is equal to you to exchange ideas with; and
  3. Someone below you to coach and keep you energized.

If you are a leader, independent, self-reliant, and need no validation, being a cool kid that needs to bring someone else down is counterintuitive.  The next time you’re out with your friends ask yourself a couple of questions… Who are you hanging around? Do you want to be amazing? There’s more to life than being cool. Think about it.


Is 30 really the new 20?

20131031-130442.jpg I’m sure we’ve all heard the saying, 30 is the new 20. This is generally a saying that helps late 20 somethings cope with leaving their “youth and irresponsible” self and growing into their adult, more responsible self. The saying also infers that some how you get another chance at being 20, due to the increasing human life expectancy. Well, it’s time to wake up and smell the cranberry and vodka; 30 isn’t the new 20; it isn’t the new anything; 30 is 30, and that’s that! Clinical psychologist, Meg Jay, suggests 20 somethings should realize that the 20s is “the defining defining of their lives.

The suggestion that 30 is the new 20 gives 20 somethings the false sense that they have another chance to get “it” right. Unfortunately, this is certainly not the case. Other than the fact we’re not promised tomorrow, consider a few things. In our 20s, we’re still learning life, learning who we are, and still accepting of new things. As we get older, we become less and less tolerable of certain things, because we learned a lot of about our lives and what we will and will not tolerate. Also, once we turn 30, “the clock” seems to tick even faster and it starts to seem as if there isn’t enough time in the day to do everything we need to accomplish.

As we grow into our 30s, the realization of our life’s purpose, retirement, career, and more responsibility hits us in the face. We find ourselves raceing towards the finish line, attempting to accomplish things we should have accomplished in our 20s. While in our 20s, we have 10 years to make mistakes, figure out which direction to go, fall in love, etc. Don’t waste away your 20s thinking that 30 is the new 20; therefore you have more time. Live your life with a purpose…this ain’t no dress rehearsal. Give it all you got, right now!! Don’t wait until you’re 30, thinking you have more time. Remember that time waits for no one.