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Klassily After Dark – One Night At My Boyfriend’s House

I decided to change into my favorite PJ’s. I put on a long satin pair and plopped onto the couch like a sack of Ore Ida potatoes. The last thing on my mind was enticing anyone.

My boyfriend came over, and slid his hand over my PJ’s. I could tell by the look on his face, he was shocked. He couldn’t stop rubbing my pants. My satin pants struck a nerve. After he recovered from his initial shock he murmured a series of words I’ve never heard before ‘wow, I love your PANTS.’ Never in a million years would I have thought I could woo a guy with just satin pants.

I had to get to the bottom of this conundrum so I asked, “what is it about the pants you like”. He responded, “I LOVE the way they feel and they turn me on”. He then proceeded to pull me into the bedroom, where, well – you can use your imagination.

Interesting how we are taught, less is more. In actuality, it shouldn’t be taken so literally. If less isn’t working, don’t be afraid to explore the realm of more.

-Untitled N. Satin

Here’s A Tip About Experiencing The Better Parts Of Life…

Don’t wait for anyone! Just go and do it. Make that dinner reservation at the restaurant you’ve always wanted to go to. Plan that trip to the destination that you’ve dreamed about. Head to the gym when it’s best for you. The worst thing you can do is worry about doing it alone. You’ll fine that once you start everyone will want to join you, and while you’re there, there’s always someone to keep you company.


You Wanna Live Fancy? Party In France? You Better Find Deals B!@#$

Welcome to the wonderful world of TravelZoo, the best travel website around. If you are unfamiliar with this website prepare to be amazed.

My first encounter with TravelZoo was back in 2011 when I was deciding on a trip to Las Vegas. Now, as many of you know flights to Vegas are not cheap, especially not from the East Coast. I had a close friend forward me an email with a bunch of deals listed and highlighted that she found a roundtrip flight out of Baltimore to Las Vegas for $150! $1-5-0! What is this wonderful deal website she sent me? Could it be a fake? I was skeptical at first, until I followed the path to freedom. TravelZoo sent me to a special airline website where I found loads and loads of $150 roundtrip flights. How did I not see this? Where were these the last time I was looking? Without hesitation, I found the timeframe I wanted (Columbus Weekend mind you), booked, and never looked back.

From that day in 2011 TravelZoo has been my go-to website for all deals and not just travel. I have booked numerous spa days, party buses, wineries, brunches, dinners, shows. Here are some examples (just to name a few): Michael Jackson’s One Cirque Soleil in Vegas only $120 middle section second row? BAM, another trip to Vegas for 4th of July? Why yes $150 AGAIN? BAM, Party Bus around 4 clubs in Vegas $39? BAM, ski-weekend in Canaan Valley for two nights all lift and ski rental included for only $249 for two people? BAM Need I go on?

I hope you take my advice and seek out TravelZoo. Go right now and sign up for Deals, Local Deals, and get the TravelZoo Weekly Top 20 where I find most of the flight deals! (recent experience: $220 roundtrip nonstop on Virgin America to San Fran brought you by TravelZoo).


Keep It Real

Often we get so caught up in what feels good & what looks good. We’re willing to live a lie just because its convenient or its what society tells us is acceptable, this is not sustainable.

Learn to embrace your reality regardless of the outcome. Be strong enough to face the facts. If you’re not “keeping it real” with yourself, what makes you think people will keep it real with you???

Take a quick moment to sit down with yourself, your loved ones, your higher power and release the truth. Be strong, be true, be you!!!


There’s More To Life Than Being Cool

We’ve all seen them: They wear the latest fashions, they speak the latest lingo, and they listen to the “coolest” music. If you’re lucky, they’ll say hi to you or even grace you with their presence. Consider yourself lucky if they invite you to one of their exclusive events. If you sell your soul, they may welcome you into their group. But do you really want to be apart of that group?

The “cool kid” group seems like the way to go for so many people. They seem to be the most beautiful people and do the “coolest” things. But if you dive deeper into their personas, you may be surprised to find that some of them are actually mean spirited, ego inflated , and even bullies. While this may not be the case for all cool kids, it certainly represents quite a few. Don’t expect to grow, expand your knowledge, or be a better person if you surround yourself by social climbers who have no qualms with this type of behavior.

Writer, philosopher, and social entrepreneur Brenton Weyi wrote about the three essential types of people you need to have in your life at all times to be amazing. According to his article, “Why Successful People Leave Their Loser Friends Behind in order to be amazing, you’ll need:

  1.  Someone who is older and more successful than you, to learn from;
  2. Someone who is equal to you to exchange ideas with; and
  3. Someone below you to coach and keep you energized.

If you are a leader, independent, self-reliant, and need no validation, being a cool kid that needs to bring someone else down is counterintuitive.  The next time you’re out with your friends ask yourself a couple of questions… Who are you hanging around? Do you want to be amazing? There’s more to life than being cool. Think about it.


Don’t let Halloween be the only day you find joy


Halloween, the only holiday where being a whore is acceptable. It’s the only holiday where you can be whatever you desire without the fear of being judged. Why though? Why not accept everyone for who they really are?

The guy who dressed as Miley Cyrus was a hit today, but tomorrow as he suits up in his regular ensemble; he probably won’t receive nearly as much praise.

Today, tomorrow and next year be whoever you want to be! Life’s way too short not to be open minded to all colors, all styles, all personalities, and sexual preferences. Don’t let Halloween be the only day you find joy in the differences of the world.


Is 30 really the new 20?

20131031-130442.jpg I’m sure we’ve all heard the saying, 30 is the new 20. This is generally a saying that helps late 20 somethings cope with leaving their “youth and irresponsible” self and growing into their adult, more responsible self. The saying also infers that some how you get another chance at being 20, due to the increasing human life expectancy. Well, it’s time to wake up and smell the cranberry and vodka; 30 isn’t the new 20; it isn’t the new anything; 30 is 30, and that’s that! Clinical psychologist, Meg Jay, suggests 20 somethings should realize that the 20s is “the defining defining of their lives.

The suggestion that 30 is the new 20 gives 20 somethings the false sense that they have another chance to get “it” right. Unfortunately, this is certainly not the case. Other than the fact we’re not promised tomorrow, consider a few things. In our 20s, we’re still learning life, learning who we are, and still accepting of new things. As we get older, we become less and less tolerable of certain things, because we learned a lot of about our lives and what we will and will not tolerate. Also, once we turn 30, “the clock” seems to tick even faster and it starts to seem as if there isn’t enough time in the day to do everything we need to accomplish.

As we grow into our 30s, the realization of our life’s purpose, retirement, career, and more responsibility hits us in the face. We find ourselves raceing towards the finish line, attempting to accomplish things we should have accomplished in our 20s. While in our 20s, we have 10 years to make mistakes, figure out which direction to go, fall in love, etc. Don’t waste away your 20s thinking that 30 is the new 20; therefore you have more time. Live your life with a purpose…this ain’t no dress rehearsal. Give it all you got, right now!! Don’t wait until you’re 30, thinking you have more time. Remember that time waits for no one.


Dating is Like Soul Searching


It’s like searching for that one specific star in the night sky that appears to be different from the others. It’s like solving the toughest math problem hoping for the right answer.

Before even attempting to pursue someone you really have to be in love with yourself. Dating is like soul searching. Be confident in you! Because without that sense of self worth, you’re basically setting yourself up for failure. You’re setting yourself up to run into a dead end, head on collision, near death experience.

Be smart. Be faithful and don’t be so afraid to love. Remember, dating doesn’t always have to be the infamous “Hell Date” experience. Be you! Be positive! Be true!

-Jennifer Bellamy