Don’t wait for anyone! Just go and do it. Make that dinner reservation at the restaurant you’ve always wanted to go to. Plan that trip to the destination that you’ve dreamed about. Head to the gym when it’s best for you. The worst thing you can do is worry about doing it alone. You’ll fine that once you start everyone will want to join you, and while you’re there, there’s always someone to keep you company.
We’ve all seen them: They wear the latest fashions, they speak the latest lingo, and they listen to the “coolest” music. If you’re lucky, they’ll say hi to you or even grace you with their presence. Consider yourself lucky if they invite you to one of their exclusive events. If you sell your soul, they may welcome you into their group. But do you really want to be apart of that group?
The “cool kid” group seems like the way to go for so many people. They seem to be the most beautiful people and do the “coolest” things. But if you dive deeper into their personas, you may be surprised to find that some of them are actually mean spirited, ego inflated , and even bullies. While this may not be the case for all cool kids, it certainly represents quite a few. Don’t expect to grow, expand your knowledge, or be a better person if you surround yourself by social climbers who have no qualms with this type of behavior.
Writer, philosopher, and social entrepreneur Brenton Weyi wrote about the three essential types of people you need to have in your life at all times to be amazing. According to his article, “Why Successful People Leave Their Loser Friends Behind” in order to be amazing, you’ll need:
- Someone who is older and more successful than you, to learn from;
- Someone who is equal to you to exchange ideas with; and
- Someone below you to coach and keep you energized.
If you are a leader, independent, self-reliant, and need no validation, being a cool kid that needs to bring someone else down is counterintuitive. The next time you’re out with your friends ask yourself a couple of questions… Who are you hanging around? Do you want to be amazing? There’s more to life than being cool. Think about it.